{"id":54737,"date":"2018-11-21T20:25:03","date_gmt":"2018-11-21T14:55:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dwarkaparichay.com\/blog\/?p=54737"},"modified":"2019-01-28T07:55:39","modified_gmt":"2019-01-28T02:25:39","slug":"you-give-what-you-have","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dwarkaparichay.com\/blog\/you-give-what-you-have\/","title":{"rendered":"You Give; What You Have"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Commander V K Jaitly<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let me start this article by a story that was narrated by David J. Polay and this story became so popular that he eventually wrote a book titled: \u201cThe Law of the Garbage Truck.\u201d<\/p>\n

The story in the words of David, \u201cSixteen years ago I learned this lesson. And I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here\u2019s what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, the car skidded, the tires squealed, and at the very last moment our car stopped just one inch from the other car\u2019s back-end.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t believe it. But then I couldn\u2019t believe what happened next. The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. How do I know? Ask any New Yorker, some words in New York come with a special face. And he even threw in a one finger salute! I couldn\u2019t believe it!<\/p>\n

But then here\u2019s what really blew me away. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, \u201cWhy did you just do that!? This guy could have killed us!\u201d And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, \u201cThe Law of the Garbage Truck™.\u201d He said:<\/p>\n

“Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they look for a place to dump it. And if you let them, they\u2019ll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don\u2019t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Believe me. You\u2019ll be happier.” <\/strong><\/p>\n

So I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the street? It was then that I said, \u201cI don\u2019t want their garbage and I\u2019m not going to spread it anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n

So in fact, people give to others what they have. If some people have a lot of garbage in their head in the form of abuses, anger, hatred, jealousy, animosity or frustration, that is what they will dump on others. So if someone\u00a0speaks ill about you and showers abuses on you, just think that her\/his head\u00a0is full of these abuses only and so s\/he can give you only this. This understanding alone will change the way you will react now. You may just\u00a0smile at him\/her without losing your temper and refuse to take what s\/he is trying to give you.<\/p>\n

If you fill your mind with positivity and try to make humbleness, politeness, decency, modesty, courtesy, love and respect for others as part of your\u00a0personality, then you will always demonstrate a decorum full of affection and\u00a0 admiration for others. You exhibit such gentlemanly qualities of\u00a0graciousness, generosity and cordiality because you possess them in abundance and you pour them on anyone who comes across you.<\/p>\n

It is a fact of life that you give to others what you have. You can\u2019t give to\u00a0others what you don\u2019t have. A teacher has the knowledge and he gives that\u00a0to his pupils. I have a doctor friend and he gives me some vitamins and other\u00a0 general tablets for me, my wife and my mother whenever I meet him in\u00a0addition to a lot of advice for good health. You sit at the feet of your guru or your parents and you will get the wisdom of the experience of their lives that\u00a0they have gained over a large number of years in addition to their blessings. Now as an author, whenever I come across anyone and I feel that I must give him something that should be beneficial for him, I present him my book.<\/p>\n

So whenever, someone gives you the good things of life that you cherish\u00a0while receiving and it creates happiness in your mind, just grab it with both\u00a0hands and absorb that fully in your mind and you shall be able to pass on the same to others multiplied by many more times. But whenever, anyone\u00a0hurls abuses or curses at you that obviously nobody likes, just become opaque and don\u2019t let even a small percentage of that to enter your mind. Just\u00a0refuse to accept even an iota of that. Let not others decide your behaviour.
\nIt is you who should have full control on your behaviour.<\/p>\n

Your behaviour should never be a reaction to what someone else has done\u00a0or said. You may respond to the actions of others after a quick but a thorough\u00a0analysis. Immediate reactions normally lead to problems. Well thought out response makes us more responsible. So spend time with good people.\u00a0Observe them minutely. Accummulate good thoughts and good habits from such noble souls. Read good books. Watch good movies. This will increase\u00a0your stock of goodness and decency and then that is what you will give to others because you can give only that, what you have.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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